Personal - Forum - ISKCON Desire Tree | IDT2024-03-28T18:40:27Zhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/feed/category/PersonalPorn Addictionhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/porn-addiction2024-03-18T06:03:43.000Z2024-03-18T06:03:43.000ZShatrughan chauhanhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Shatrughanchauhan<div><p>Hare Krishna</p><p>Please Accept My Humble Obiesances </p>All glories to Srila PrabhupadaI am facing a very bad situation.A bad porn Addiction, it is affecting my health and my mind.I can't get rid of itI chant my rounds everyday and pray to Krishna to help me.I feel guilty and regretful, I feel Krishna doesn't like me because of this bad habit.Will he ever accept me and will I over come it ever?Dandwat Pranam</div>The teenage pregnancy of Shrila prabhupadas wifehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/the-teenage-pregnancy-of-shrila-prabhupadas-wife2024-03-14T14:33:15.000Z2024-03-14T14:33:15.000ZRahul ujjenwalhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Rahulujjenwal<div><p>Hare krsna</p><p>PAMHO</p><p>so recently I was reading about prabhupada and his journey on the internet and I reached at prabhupadas marriage time and read that prabhupad was married at 22 years to a 11 year old girl and I completely agree with the Vedic rituals and early marriage was done for the girl to be devoted to his husband thus due to this India's divorce rates were also low </p><p> </p><p>But my main doubt is that the first child of prabhupad was when his wife was at the of 14 years so I feel bit a weird because 14 years is less for giving birth to a child.</p><p>I fully adore prabhupada as he is a great vaishnava and there must a logical explanation that I am missing this plz enlighten me this doubt I have no intention to hurt but only for my clearance in my mind.</p><p>I am sorry if I am doing vaishnav appradh I know prabhupad is never wrong hence I am asking it from the humble devotees </p><p>Hare krsna 🙇🏻♂️</p><p> </p></div>Same-Sex Marriages and scriptural references to being ring or wronghttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/same-sex-marriages-and-scriptural-references-to-being-ring-or-wro2024-03-07T15:36:10.000Z2024-03-07T15:36:10.000ZKirti Konkahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/KirtiKonka<div><p>All glories to Guru Maharaj and Gauranga. All glories to Srila Prabhupada. Hare Krishna!</p><p>This is very taboo topic to have a discussion about but just wanted to know the following:</p><p>What are the scriptural references to same sex marriage and are they valid according our shastras. Because now a days a lot many people are coming out to their families who fall under the section of LGBTQ+</p><p>If I made any mataji prabhuji uncomfortable, I am extremely sorry. I just wanted to know..</p></div>Wanna reply the rascals.https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/wanna-reply-the-rascals2024-02-22T13:22:33.000Z2024-02-22T13:22:33.000ZSagnik Palhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/SagnikPal<div><p> My friend asked me what is the proof there is Prabhu Sree Krisna?Have I seen him? I asked him back did you see you grandfather of your grand father? He told me he didn't but he is the reason behind his existence, then I lost my track to argue, I don't wanna fail in arguments regarding lord Krisna. But I fail every time to give logics to my atheist friends.</p></div>Looking for devotee matajis to helphttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/looking-for-devotee-matajis-to-help2024-02-04T17:36:59.000Z2024-02-04T17:36:59.000ZAdarshhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Adarsh<div><p>Hare Krishna, all devotees. Please accept my humble obesiances. All glories to Sri Guru and Gauranga. <strong>All</strong> glories to Srila Prabhupada. </p><p> </p><p>Me and my wife are devotees and practicing Krishna consciousness. Now my wife is pregnant. We don't have anyone in our family for support. We're looking for a devotee mataji who can stay with us for some months to support us. We live in Kerala. Stay with some salary will be given. Please let me know if anyone are interested or atleast guide where we can look for devotees who can help us. Any forum or community where we can ask for help. </p><p> </p></div>CONFUSED🥺https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/confused-42024-01-31T20:38:26.000Z2024-01-31T20:38:26.000ZUtkarsh Kumarhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/UtkarshKumar<div><p>HARE KRISHNA</p><p>I was a materialistic and half atheist and then I began curious about SASTRAS and our Vedic scriptures, i started some research and gather some basis of sanatana Dharm. Then I started watching videos of <em>AMOGH LILA PRABHU </em>and <em>ISVAR GAURANGA PRABHU</em>, they bring me into the world of <em>BHAKTI and</em> that is what I was missing in my life, they told me we souls and servant of krsna and now due to ISKCON, I know many many things about GAUDIYA VAISNAVISM and other Vaisnav sampradaya and samarth sampradaya and also VEDANTA DARSHAN of many acharayas. OVERALL, ISKCON has helped me in understanding sanatan dharm and krishna consciusness. NOWADAYS, people without knowing what ISKCON really is saying rubbish things about ISKCON in social media that ISKCON is Christian and converting people into Christian, they don't respect lord Shiva,devi durga, they don't teach the real philosophy of vaisnavism and gaudiya vaisnavism,which keep distracting me in my bhakti and made me think if 'ISKCON IS RIGHT OR WRONG'. What should I do?</p><p>My inner feelings says--(I believe ISKCON is right and bonafide as Srila Prabhupada has made this society.)</p><p>Plzz help in this situation.</p></div>What to do? please help..https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/what-to-do-please-help2024-01-17T07:55:38.000Z2024-01-17T07:55:38.000ZAgrimhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Agrim<div><p>Hare krishna prabhujis and matajis... what to do if some girls get offended when called mataji?? is it ok if we call them didi ? also as a general safeguard is it ok to call opposite gender didi/auntiji? because they might take mataji in wrong way causing dispute... in my mind i will consider them as mataji only.. its just that i will call them didi/auntyji...</p><p>please guide🙏</p><p> </p></div>Unchastityhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/unchastity2023-12-15T15:12:28.000Z2023-12-15T15:12:28.000ZAgrimhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Agrim<div><p>Hare krishna to all devotees... In Nectar of Devtion 51.. radharani's friend tells her that she was the most chaste girls of the village but now she is partially chase and partially unchaste... what is this suppose to mean.. is radharani (please take no offence) unchaste by not being chaste towards the husband she got married to ?? does this mean that us loving and getting attracted krishna also unchaste.. is our relationship with him unchaste.. also is krishna also then unchaste because he loves us all(no offence intended) ..please guide according to refrences etc..</p></div>Difficulties in samskara for having a good childhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/difficulties-in-samskara-for-having-a-good-child2023-12-06T12:52:27.000Z2023-12-06T12:52:27.000ZAnkit Phttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/AnkitPrajapati<div><p>Hare Krishna, Dandvat Pranam!!</p><p>I was reading this blog <a href="https://iskcondesiretree.com/profiles/blogs/samskara-for-having-a-child">https://iskcondesiretree.com/profiles/blogs/samskara-for-having-a-child</a> and have questions.</p><p dir="ltr">So for having good child we have to see</p><ul><li dir="ltr"><p dir="ltr">good tithis (Sexual union must also be avoided on days of vrata and fasting, such as ekadasi, and on the parva days (full moon, dark moon, astami and caturdasi tithis, as well as sankranti, when the sun passes into a new zodiac sign) when the body is in weak condition, and the days when the moon passes throught the same naksatra as at ones birth.)</p></li><li dir="ltr"><p dir="ltr">good days (Forbidden days - Sunday, Tuesday, Saturday)</p></li><li dir="ltr"><p dir="ltr">good nakshatra (Forbidden Naksatra: contact should be avoided when the moon is in the following constellations: bharani, krttika, ardra, aslesa, magha, purvaphalguni, visakha, jyestha, purvasada, purvabhadra)</p></li><li dir="ltr"><p dir="ltr">Forbidden days- first six, 11, 13 of cycle</p></li><li dir="ltr"><p dir="ltr">I have to consider even days as I want SON </p></li></ul><p dir="ltr">So all these points does not satisfy in one day. In 1 month we get approx 3 days which satisfy all conditions. Me and my wife are of 29. So she has age now. I am also getting pressure from family and wife for having child because of age.</p><p dir="ltr">Now I am totally hopeless. For two months no good days came.</p><p dir="ltr">I need guidance. I can't wait for a long time. Please help me.</p><p dir="ltr">Hare Krishna!</p></div>Seeing Nightmareshttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/seeing-nightmares2023-12-04T11:24:46.000Z2023-12-04T11:24:46.000ZMadhavi Karalehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/MadhaviKarale<div><p>Hare Krishna Prabhuji / Mataji,</p><p>Recently i saw a dream wherein a lady (ghost lady) tried to kill me and i could literally feel choked up. I tried to callout to Krishna but the name didnt come out of my mouth so i started chanting the Hare Krishna Mantra in my mind and i woke up after that.</p><p>I am confused as to why such nightmares are still continued? I do not watch television or talk anything related to horror movies. </p><p>Please explain.</p></div>What does unlimited mean part 2https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/what-does-unlimited-mean-part-22023-12-03T07:36:18.000Z2023-12-03T07:36:18.000ZAgrimhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Agrim<div><p>I was also going through SB 4.9.10 and Nectar of Devotion- <a href="https://prabhupadabooks.com/nod/1/happiness_in_krsna_consciousness">https://prabhupadabooks.com/nod/1/happiness_in_krsna_consciousness</a><br />I want to know when it is said that there is unlimited bliss and happiness and unlimited pleasure in krishna conciousness... what does it mean... does it mean that there is pleasure, bliss and happiness(all three) eternally in krishna conciousness or does it mean there is unlimited amount of bliss , pleasure and happiness(all three together) in krishna conciousness...(like 1second in any material pleasure gives 100units pleasure etc and 1 sec in pure krishna concious gives unlimited units of pleasure,bliss,happniess,love is this what is meant by unlimited amount??..) <br />Or does it mean that both occur simultaneously....</p></div>What does unlimited mean?https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/what-does-unlimited-mean2023-12-03T06:46:01.000Z2023-12-03T06:46:01.000ZAgrimhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Agrim<div><p>I was going through some srila prabhupada transcripts on vaniquotes..and am confused... <br /><br /><br /><strong><span class="link"><a class="extiw" title="vanisource:Lecture on SB 5.5.1-2 -- London (Tittenhurst), September 13, 1969" href="https://vanisource.org/wiki/Lecture_on_SB_5.5.1-2_--_London_(Tittenhurst),_September_13,_1969?hl=sense%20gratification%20means">Lecture on SB 5.5.1-2 -- London (Tittenhurst), September 13, 1969</a>: </span></strong></p><div class="text"><p>And what is the purpose of that self-realization, or God-realization? That is yena sattvaṁ śuddhyet. Then your existence will be purified. What is the necessity of purifying my existence? Yena sattvaṁ śuddhyed yasmāt... If you purify your existence, then yasmād brahma-saukhyam (<a class="extiw" title="vanisource:SB 5.5.1" href="https://vanisource.org/wiki/SB_5.5.1">SB 5.5.1</a>), you'll relish unlimited pleasure. You are after now temporary pleasure by sense gratification, but in this life, in this human form of life, if you control your sense gratification and utilize the time for self-realization, so as soon as you are self-realized man or Brahman realized man then your happiness is unlimited. You are after happiness. Your <span class="hlterm">sense gratification means</span> you are after happiness, but this happiness is temporary. Any material happiness, it has no continuity. It has got limit. But if you want... But my desire is to have unlimited happiness, unlimited life, unlimited knowledge. If you want that, so try this life, this human form of life. Don't waste it simply after sense gratification, but practice austerity. Minimize your sense gratification.<br /><br />HERE SRILA PRABHUPADA USES THE WORD UNLIMITED TO INDICATE 'ETERNAL' EARLIER I FELT IT MEANT THAT UNLIMITED IN AMOUNT...PLEASE CLARIFY MY DOUBT WHAT DOES UNLIMITED MEAN HERE ... UNLIMITED IN AMOUNT OR 'ETERNAL/UNENDING...</p></div><p> </p></div>Controlling senseshttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/controlling-senses2023-11-22T13:14:00.000Z2023-11-22T13:14:00.000ZKunal Sanjay Bhosalehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/KunalSanjayBhosale<div><p>Hare Krishna.</p><p>I am new to IDT, please forgive my words if I am making any mistakes.</p><p>I started geeting into Krishna Consciousness some years ago and I read Shrimad Bhagvad Gita 2 times and now I am reading Shrimad Bhagvatam First Canto. I do tha Japa for 1 time in morning, and whole day while working in my mind I am forever chanting. I want to increase my chanting rounds to 16 and the most important thing I want to ask is how can I get rid of sexual senses, I am 27 and unmarried. My aim is to read the complete Shrimad Bhagvatam and then I want to read Shree Chaitanya Charitamrit, All Vedas, I want to read all those books where I will get to know about Shree Chaitanya Mahaprabhu, and all past times and all things about Shree Krishna and some more and more. The main enemy for me is my sexual senses I just want them to vanish. I get up at 6 or 5:30 in morning. This also I want to improve and want to get up atleast at 4AM.</p><p> </p></div>Doubt regarding Bhagavatham and Shiva puranahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/doubt-regarding-bhagavatham-and-shiva-purana2023-10-31T15:58:19.000Z2023-10-31T15:58:19.000ZDheerajhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Dheeraj532<div><p>It is said that the 18 maha-puranas were written by Maharshi Ved-Vyas, but, why do all puranas contradict each other? for example, according to Bhagavatam and Vishnu Purana, Krishna or Vishnu is the supreme god and source of everything [and Shiva is a devotee of Vishnu], but, according to shiva purana, Shiva is the supreme god and source of everything [and also Vishnu is a devotee of krishna].</p><p>Even the stories of the creation of the universe are different.</p><p>When The Puranas were written by the same person why did he write them in such a way that they are contradictory to each other?</p></div>Can an Advaitin/Vedantin wear the Urdhava Pundra tilak?https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/can-an-advaitin-vedantin-wear-the-urdhava-pundra-tilak2023-10-15T06:27:42.000Z2023-10-15T06:27:42.000ZDheerajhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Dheeraj532<div><p>My friend is an Advaitin/Vedantin and also Krishna Baktha. He wants to apply the urdhava pundra tilak of iskcon, but he feels like applying it would be against Vaishnavas as Vaishnavas are against the Advaita Vedanta.</p></div>My tulsi kanthi mala broke....is this bad and a sign from Shri Krishna?https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/my-tulsi-kanthi-mala-broke-is-this-bad-and-a-sign-from-shri-krish2023-08-02T03:58:06.000Z2023-08-02T03:58:06.000ZAninditahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Anindita_<div><p>Hare Krishna Everyone </p><p>Hope you'll are doing great! </p><p> </p><p>My kanthi mala recently broke and I am planning to buy a new one.</p><p>I was wondering is it a sign from God or is it normal for a kanthi mala to broke? Cuz it's been only 3 months. My prayers were irregular too. </p><p> </p><p>Also if anyone of you know any good shops in mumbai or online marts to buy kanthi mala please let me know.</p></div>Can I vape and masturbate wearing a tulsi kanthi mala?https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/can-i-vape-and-masturbate-wearing-a-tulsi-kanthi-mala2023-08-01T16:36:51.000Z2023-08-01T16:36:51.000ZAninditahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Anindita_<div><p>Hare Krishna ☺️ </p><p> </p><p>Is it possible or should I avoid it? </p><p>I've left smoking, drinking, non veg food and sex. </p><p> </p><p>I need your advice for this matter.</p></div>Religious OCD !https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/religious-ocd-22023-07-31T14:36:13.000Z2023-07-31T14:36:13.000ZVineet Kumar Yadavhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/VineetKumarYadav<div><p>Hare Krishna Devotees</p><p>PAMHO</p><p>Hare Krishna I am Facing Religious OCD Since 6 months and it's increasing day by day and I am not able to cure it myself and share it with my family.</p><p>The intrusive and unwanted thoughts and images are just ruining my life.</p><p>I am not able to help myself ....please devotees help me to get out of this and please guide me that should I consult a psychiatrist??</p><p>Please guide me and help me with these dirty thought and images of Sri Sri Radha Madhav. </p><p>And please help me that are these thoughts and images sinful and would Sri Sri Radha Madhav Forgive me for my dirty , sexual and blasphemous thoughts and images</p><p>Yhs</p></div>Hare Krishna , I broke my promise to Krishna and Srimati Radha Rani how do I ask for forgiveness?... please guide mehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/hare-krishna-i-broke-my-promise-to-krishna-and-srimati-radha-rani2023-07-28T04:22:15.000Z2023-07-28T04:22:15.000ZAyush Kumar Srivastavahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/AyushKumarSrivastava<div><p>Hare Krishna to all the devotees.</p><p>I wanted to know how can I do repentance or ask for forgiveness for Krishn ji ....I was suffering from anxiety and I wanted to overcome my addiction of watching pornography so I promised to lord shree Krishna that for the next 30 days I will chant hare Krishna mahamantra daily and I'll chant the name of shree mati Radha Rani for 24 mins every day and I'll not look at any sort of pornographic content not will I release semen for next 30days I also promised him that I will not be eating meat and eggs for next 30 days...I was successful in keeping my promise till the 28th day but on the last day I don't know how and why I broke it by releasing semen ...I really didn't wanted to do it ...I was chanting shree radha rani name asking her to remove this lusty thoughts from my mind which was arised because I watched something on the Instagram but the feeling of lust was so strong at that moment that I did the sin and broke my promise....I am feeling really guilty that I wasn't able to keep my promise to shree Krishna and maa Radha... please help how do I ask for forgiveness from them so that they don't punish me and keep loving me the way they did for last 28 days.</p><p>Hare Krishna </p></div>My troubled sex lifehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/my-troubled-sex-life2023-07-18T10:13:31.000Z2023-07-18T10:13:31.000ZAninditahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/Anindita_<div><p>Hare Krishna Everyone </p><p> </p><p>I am a 23 year old new devotee who is from Mumbai. Before being a Shree Krishna Bhakt I had a very troubled life, where I was indulged into alcohol, smoking, illicit sex, I used to consume non vegetarian food. I have left all of them. I no longer feel the urge to drink, smoke or consume meat, but I still haven't let go my sexual urges. I am at a age where it is natural for me to have such energy for sex, but because I wear tulsi kathi mala....I am restricted to do such kind of an activity. My last sexual encounter was around early December of 2022 before giving up on such things. </p><p>I used to masturbate but now after bhakti it don't do it on a regular basis. But these days I feel sexual active but for our Lord I restrict myself. Is their anyother way I can control it?</p><p>Also, I feel easly attracted to men who are way more older than me and some of them are even married. I don't want to look and think about such men in that perspective as a unmarried female.</p><p> </p><p>I would request some of you'll to suggest me new ways to control this urge of sex and attraction.</p><p>Thank you. </p></div>Service in Sakhya rasahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/service-in-sakhya-rasa2023-06-25T15:11:40.000Z2023-06-25T15:11:40.000ZSuvajit Chakrabortyhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/SuvajitChakraborty108<div><p>Hare krishna Prabhuji, I am very much apologetic for not following the instruction of Srila Bhakti Siddhanta Sarasvati Goswami Thakur Prabhupad and I jumped into the deep and intimate scriptures on Radha Krishna Pastimes. I had recently read Geet Govind and many such intimate scriptures like Vidhagdha Madhav and Lochan das thakurs mugdha nataka. So therefore I am very much fright stricken by the description of the intimate and private pastimes of Radha Krishna mentioned in those Bona fide godia Vaishnav scriptures by our bonafide Acharyas, even by Rupa Goswami and Sanathan Goswami and all the big goswamis. And I am very much depressed and disgusted. And I am very much shameful of my act and I am ashamed to even look at my Radha Madhav. And I now am very much concerned of my practice in Madhurya rasa. And therefore I am thinking that I should move on to Sakhya ras because I feel more connected in Sakhya Rati. But I'm not getting any guidance that how to follow Sakhya ras and Do my service to Krishna. As all of our Acharya are in Manjari Bhava and Madhurya ras so it is very much difficult to gain the resources that how to serve Krishna Throughout my life in Sakhya ras and what are the scriptures or what are the Acharyas who followed Sakhya ras? And what are the Bhajan so that I can follow the footstep of that Acharya.</p></div>Mentally Illhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/mentally-ill2023-06-07T00:14:11.000Z2023-06-07T00:14:11.000ZVineet Kumar Yadavhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/VineetKumarYadav<div><div class="mail-message expanded"><div class="mail-message-content collapsible zoom-normal mail-show-images"><div class="clear"><div><div>Hare Krishna !</div><div> </div><div>PAMHO</div><div> </div><div>Prabhu ji From recent few months i am not able to worship my deities and think of them because whenever i try to worship or think, some unwanted thoughts and images gets triggered into my mind.</div><div> </div><div>I searched on internet and get to know that these are the symptoms of the Religious OCD.I am troubled because of intrusive thought and unwanted images and some compulsive behaviours and i am not able to find the way out.</div><div> </div><div>All the time i am thinking that what will happen if krishna would get upset from me...what would happen if they get to know that their devotee is thinking like this....whether they are going to punish me for my thoughts and images.....and whether they will accept my prayers and devotion or not etc etc. </div><div>All day long, i am busy in thinking like this and fighting with myself.</div><div>I get the very bad and sometimes sexual thoughts also and this the sexual one is just horrible ....later i think that how my mind can think like that...</div><div>I searched on internet but not getting any solution.</div><div>Please Prabhu ji instrruct me..!🙏🙇♂️</div><div> </div><div>Please Please Please help me and guide me to the new sun....🙏🙏🙏🙏🙇♂️🙇♂️</div></div></div></div><ul><li class="mail-message-footer spacer collapsible"> </li></ul></div></div>Where does a jivha goes if his / her life, he or she does bhakti of a dhongi baba?https://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/where-does-a-jivha-goes-if-his-her-life-he-or-she-does-bhakti-of-2023-05-05T12:39:52.000Z2023-05-05T12:39:52.000ZMadhavi Karalehttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/MadhaviKarale<div><p>I have a colleague who is in her 70's, and since her childhood, she had practiced devotion to Satya Sai Baba, who she has accepted as God, and her daughter from her childhood has been doing the same. If in this human birth she doesnt gets the self realization that Krishna is the Supreme Personality of Godhead then what will happen with her next birth? </p><p></p></div>Joining a course for careerhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/joining-a-course-for-career2023-04-24T09:32:18.000Z2023-04-24T09:32:18.000ZVarun Panthttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/VarunPant<div><p>Hare Krishna</p><p> </p><p>I am 39 years old IT professional.</p><p>I regularly chant 16 rounds and am seeking initiation now.</p><p> </p><p>Careerwise, I fear that my technology may become obsolete.</p><p>So I am joining a course which will demand thrice a week 2 hours class and 3 hours Sunday assignment.</p><p> </p><p>It looks important for salary growth as well as surviving in IT industry.</p><p> </p><p>Hope such a study is not opposite to Krishna Consciousness.. </p><p> </p><p>Please suggest, Hare Krishna.. </p></div>Partiality within familyhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/partiality-within-family2023-04-08T05:12:11.000Z2023-04-08T05:12:11.000Zmxhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/mh32312321<div><p>Hare Krishna</p><p>I have 2 sisters and am the only son married and lives with my parents. Thanks to Krishna, I have been reasonably placed and doing reasonably well in my professional life (though challenges like constantly upgrading myself professionally are always there).</p><p>Now, one of my sisters is married and her husband is not dong that well. Their family has always faced issues with money. My sister constantly calls up my mother and keeps on describing her problem always. A couple of years back, my family had paid 2 lakhs to her without my knowledge. This was just after having sent 50k 6 months prior to that. I had got very irritated by that and even had quarrel with my family over that. I had specifically told my mother that if you give easy money this way, it would be become a habit and I even told her that the money will be misused by my brother-in-law with his drinking and smoking habits. I mentioned that the issue is not with the actual sending of the money, but it becoming more of a pattern. It had become an issue at that time since I had reacted quite badly at that time.One of my very close neighbours had got involved that time and he mentioned to me that the money actually belongs to my parents and it is their wish what they want to do with that. He however also explained to my parents on my behalf that I do not have issue with the transfer, but see a concern in that becoming a pattern. Over the next few years though, I just ignored the money transfers on the advice of my neighbour (whom I trust a lot).</p><p>I still see money being sent over to my daughter. On few ocassions, my mother has acknowledged that it was their mistake to get my sister married in that family. <br /><br />Off late, I had purchased a new flat in the same tier-1 city that I am living in. I have been staying in the present house (bough by father almost 40+ years back). I am planning to shift to the new home with the family in the next few months. For this new house, I was initially planning to sell off our current house and then pay so that I did not have to take a big loan. However, I saw hesitation on my parent's behalf to help me with that and again on consulation with my neighbour, he mentioned that if possible, please try to purchase the house without taking any help from parents at all.<br />While I somehow manged that, I have started feeling the pressure of the big loan I have taken.<br />Also, this constantly reminds me that my parents have been very supportive to my sister, why they always hesitate in helping me out. Also, it generates a lot of anger within me against my sister (since she always tries to influence my mother against me and shares Whatsapp messages like going forward ...only daughters would be taking care of parents..and similar such forwards)<br /><br />It somehow feels bad that while I have to struggle quite hard to earn, someone else is getting easy money just like that. It seems like a partiality to me.<br />My mother keeps saying at times that everything would ultimately be mine, except for whatever little they want to share to my sisters. But I get very worried over the strong influence that my sister has over my mother and somehow worry if they get too emotionally influenced. <br /><br />I am not sure how best to deal with this situation, since the very thought generates a lot of negativity within the mind.<br /><br />Sincere apologies if anything of the above sounds offensive, but I just shared honestly my thought process.<br /><br />I am not a very advanced devotee, but I do try to read Krishna conscious literature on a daily basis and even listen to Kirtans whenever possible.<br /><br />Hare Krishna</p></div>Religious OCDhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/religious-ocd2023-02-13T10:31:49.000Z2023-02-13T10:31:49.000ZVineet Kumar Yadavhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/VineetKumarYadav<div><p>Hare Krishna!</p><div>Mata ji and Prabhu ji From recent few months i am not able to worship my deities and think of them because whenever i try to worship or think, some unwanted thoughts and images gets triggered into my mind.</div><div>I searched on internet and get to know that these are the symptoms of the Religious OCD.I am troubled because of intrusive thought and unwanted images and some compulsive behaviours and i am not able to find the way out.</div><div>All the time i am thinking that what will happen if krishna would get upset from me...what would happen if they get to know that their devotee is thinking like this....whether they are going to punish me for my thoughts and images.</div><div>I get the very bad and sometimes sexual thoughts also and this the sexual one is just horrible ....later i think that how my mind can think of that...🤯🤯</div><div>I searched on internet but not getting any solution.</div><div> </div><div>Please help me and guide me to the new sun....🙏🙏🙏🙏</div></div>Double faceshttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/double-faces2023-02-05T15:43:11.000Z2023-02-05T15:43:11.000ZParth Sarthi Vashisthahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/ParthSarthiVashistha<div><p style="text-align:center;">Hare krishna devotees </p><p style="text-align:center;">I sometimes ponder over my life and find that in front of the world I am a very cheerful person I am always joking and laughing but in the alone I am always filled with sadness, guilt ,depression and loneliness I feel doublefaced .</p><p style="text-align:center;">In front of people I behaves like a saint angerless very patient very adjusting respecting and calm but in my home with my family I am always shouting and filled with anger I get irritated if someone does anything that is not of my choice I don't cooperate with anything, I roam in the world agitated many times I disrespect my mother and father I also took relation managing classes of iskon but it didn't work I think it is not a good behaviour as a devotee . Please help me with both</p><p style="text-align:center;">Hare krsna </p></div>My arthttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/my-art2023-02-03T15:17:11.000Z2023-02-03T15:17:11.000ZParth Sarthi Vashisthahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/ParthSarthiVashistha<div><p style="text-align:center;">Hare krishna dear devotees i have a question. AS A Hobbist i am a writer and a poet ( braj and awdhi are my languages for poetry and hindi for writing ) i have seen that all the bhakt poets only wrote about krsna and his lilas i too love representing philology through my poetry but i am also intrested in writing romentic poems which depicts love story of princesses and princes but at the end i close the poems with philosophic ending i have stopped writing novels from two years since i came to krsna consciousness as i thought there are not many readers to krsna conscious novels and i would not love writing and thinking about worldly things but still i found that writing poems don't complete my appetite of writing what should i do can i start writing stories snd novels which are not krsna conscious but gives glimes about reality of life and world which can end with love for God and other topics </p><p style="text-align:center;">Another thing that i think if i use my gid gifted aet of poetry and writing for purposes other than seva it will pollute my art and would be like offering already tasted food to krsna as in history none of tha bhakts used their art for entertaining worldly people i would even love writing krsna conscious articles if i can fi d an opportunity. </p><p style="text-align:center;">I tried my level best to explain my issue please accept my humble obiences thank you hare krana </p></div>I need a mentorhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/i-need-a-mentor-12023-01-22T14:33:15.000Z2023-01-22T14:33:15.000ZAditi Malavhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/AditiMalav<div><p> Hare krishna</p><p>Being very straight forward Bcoz of the material miseries here I m spiritually inclined but I love krishna as my brother and am 100% sure he is with me. I want to be very very famous but bcoz of constantly sufferings am not able to focus on my dream. I think that if I will get a mentor he will guide me I will questions about what is going in my life how to handle this situation and that and also how to grow spiritually in short I want a mentor do I have to be intiated to get a mentor......</p><p>I constantly listening to other successful persons like vivek bindra pr he said that his mentor told him to do this so this thing is imprinted in my mind and for me guru's words are like definative clear goals for me that if he said this to me I have to this in any any condition that's why I want him so that I can have a path and someone is there to guide me to help me as I chose my college in delhi jst bcoz it is the nearest I can choose but it is still far away to go and other iskcon also not accesible so no association is also affecting my bhakti which going downwards I slip from 8 rnds to 2 rnds bcoz i dont know how to manage bhakti in busy schedule do i have to watch lectures? Or not...</p><p>I am longing to go to iskcon delhi but expenses are more even on sundays so 1 sunday in month is there for me to go there and thia ia not sufficient for me </p><p>Please tell me how can I find my mentor.</p><p> </p></div>My philosophyhttps://iskcondesiretree.com/forum/topics/my-philosophy2023-01-20T11:24:04.000Z2023-01-20T11:24:04.000ZParth Sarthi Vashisthahttps://iskcondesiretree.com/members/ParthSarthiVashistha<div><div class="before-content"><div class="ningbar cf"></div></div><div class="central-content cf"><div class="site-body container"><div class="row"><div class="span16 tablet16 mobile16 column"><div class="grid-frame sheet section-tabContainer"><ul class="comments-list comments-level1"><li class="comments-comment comments-selected"><div class="comments-commentBody media-frame"><div class="media-body"><div class="comments-metadata"><div class="comments-editeddata"> </div></div><div class="comments-text entry-content"><p>Hare krishna dear devotees please accept my humble obiences </p><p>Years ago i read one line <strong>many a flowers is born to blush unseen </strong>so i made my philosophy that <strong>i want to live todoe and want to die to live </strong>in short i wnat world to know that there was someone named Parth who walked on earth amd did something for the world . Is my ambition correct and will this help me in the spiritual journey as a devotee </p><p>All glories to shrila parbhupad and vaishnavs who are the walking abode of bliss .</p></div><div class="comments-actions cf"> </div></div></div></li></ul><div class="tabContainerSection-pane section-member-commentWall"> </div></div></div></div></div></div><div class="after-content"> </div><p> </p></div>